Family dynamics can be tricky and even more complicated when a new parent or stepsibling becomes involved.

This story is about a stepfather, who was never acknowledged as a parent by his wife’s daughter, who spent her life reminding the man he was “just her mom’s husband.”

After years of dismissing the man, when she became financially strapped, she turned to him for support. Originally wanting to help, the stepfather reversed his decision when the “entitled” woman made demands on how she expected him to deliver the support.

Keep reading to learn more about this kind-hearted man and how he handled this situation.

In early January, a man shared his story on the ‘Am I the A******’ subreddit, detailing a situation involving his late wife’s now adult daughter.

The man, who goes by the handle Commercial Panda, explains that when he married his wife, he became a father figure to her two children, daughter Juana, 12 and son Iago, who was eight. The couple also added two more children, now teenagers, to the family.

Juana and Iago’s biological father, Juan, is a deadbeat who “rarely paid child support and he worked under the table a lot to lower the amount he should pay.”

Despite Juan’s shady behavior, like once switching a label of a gift to Iago so it appeared to come from him, the kids adore him.

“He can do no wrong in their eyes. When Juana got married, he walked her down the aisle even though I paid for the wedding,” the author writes. “I wasn’t even acknowledged on the invitation. Once again, I didn’t start s*** because the wedding wasn’t about me.”

‘Just her mom’s husband’

The original poster (OP) shares that his relationship with Juana only got worse after her first child was born. He writes, “I was told in no uncertain terms that I was not going to be her kids’ grandfather. I was just her mom’s husband.”

After his wife died, the author writes he’s developed a relationship with Iago, who’s always been polite with his stepdad. “After their mom died, he still came to see me and we often share a meal. He has brought his fiancé to meet me, and he hand delivered my invitation to make sure I knew he wanted me there.”

Juana on the other hand, went silent after her mother’s funeral.